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Non Verbal Body Language Dictionary ::R::

by Christopher Philip • March 27, 2010 • 0 Comments

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Radical hair styles: A person who’s hair is far beyond ordinary. This person is usually rebellious, adventurous, trendy, a nonconformist, artistic, expressive, is trying to fit in with certain peers, has no regard for personal appearance, has a need to be different or is being affect by their culture.

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Rapid speech: A voice trait when the rate of speaking occurs at an above average rate making what is being said difficult to follow. Talking fast can be due to lying (fast talking salesman), a reaction to growing up in a house where it was hard to get a word in, a basic insecurity, poor self-esteem, efforts to gain attention, nervousness, impatience, anxiety, insecurity, excitement, fear, drugs or alcohol use, anger, desire to persuade or being caught in a lie.

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Rapport or rapport building: When bodies flow in unison while in conversation as if in a dance, they have achieved perfect rapport. Good rapport includes, proper turn taking in speech, matched pace, tonality and volume, mirroring or echoing with respect to posture, matched gesturing and agreement indicators are present and used appropriately to create a seamless and synchronous conversation between two or more people. Rapport is a nonverbal necessity in forming social bonds in friends, in sales to produce comfort and agreement. In all situations, rapport produces liking. It is good rapport that is felt when people feel relaxed and comfortable with others.

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Raspy voice: A raspy voice is a trait usually found in people who smoke, but it can also be due to a cold, bronchitis or physical ailment. Other times a raspy voice is due to overuse or misuse of the vocal cords.

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Readiness to submit postures: Cues that can eliminate, or significantly reduce the possibility of confrontation usually done by making the body smaller and lowering the eyes.

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Ready language: Postures or positions that indicate a desire to leave or take action. Putting the weight forward on the toes, extending a foot in the direction one wishes to exit and putting the hands on the knees are a few examples.

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Reading readiness: When a nonverbal reader has the foundation, understanding and awareness to predict behaviour in other people. It involves knowing the catalogue of body language cues in addition to their meaning, and then carefully observing them in others with an unbiased, objective eye to decipher hidden meaning.

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Recognition gestures: An indication that a person has identified someone familiar. The signals include a smile, eye widening, eyebrow flash, waving and so forth.

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Rectangular table seating arrangements: A table dimension that makes it possible to structure power. The head of the table gains the most power except when it puts their back to the door. Power trickles down as one moves down the table from the head. The person sitting opposite the head is in a competitive arrangement with them.

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Regal stance: A standing body position whereby the arms are placed behind the back. It signifies a desire not to be touched and a haughty attitude. Royalty and those of high rank will be seen performing this stance.

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Regulating: One of the six main categories of body language. This category of body language carries all that is aimed at controlling the pace of a message. It includes all body language used in proper turn-taking such as head nodding, mouth gapping to indicate a desire to speak, eye contact, and so forth.

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Regulators: Used to modulate and maintain the flow of the speech, or turn taking, during a conversation. They include kinesic such as head nods or nonkinesic such as eye movements as well as verbal utterances such as “mhums” and “yeses.”

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Reinforced arm crossing: A full arm cross in combination with clenched fists in a cluster. This cluster indicates hostility and defensiveness. When arm crossing is combined with a tight-lipped smile or clenched teeth is signifies that a verbal or physical confrontation is immanent.

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Rejection body language: Cues used to repel others such as turning the head away and body away, holding an expressionless face, staring blankly, bringing the hand up to stifle a false or real yawn, sneering, fidgeting or picking the fingernails, open rejection of conversation, and so forth.

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Regional style: Fashion and apparel that provides cues to a person’s heritage. They can include male bikini style bathing suits, cowboy hats, distinctive jewelry or other accessories, big hairdos and so forth.

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Register: Is the range of the voice from its highest of highs to it’s lowest of lows.

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Relaxed body language: Relaxed includes a letting down of defensive and closed body language that is typically guarded and rigid for a more open or loose form body language as a person becomes more comfortable. Examples of relaxed body language include a loose body, leg spreading, removing attire, increasing proximity and gesticulation. More extreme relaxation includes laying down or throwing a leg over the arm of a chair.

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Relaxed body postures: Found in people that feel they belong or “own” a situation. They include a loose and open body.

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Remotivating or remotivate: Nonverbal gestures used to control the reaction of others. When a women displays sexually to gain an advantage she is said to be remotivating her target. Acting submissive to dominant individuals is also a form of remotivating.

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Repeating: One of the six main categories of body language. Repeating says that body language is used to convey the same meaning as what was just iterated verbally. If one says “move that over there” then, after a moment pointing in the direction to which one wants something moved, then body language has served to repeat a thought.

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Reptilian brain (the) or the honest brain: The reptilian brain produces visceral bodily responses such as heart rate, blood pressure, circulation, respiration, digestion, and reproduction. The reptilian brain is the brain stem. It produces nonverbal body language that is deemed more truthful than that generated by the neocortex which is capable of producing conscious movements. When a person defense their territory and competes for dominance it is due to the reptilian brain.

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Resentment body language or resent: A set of signals that forms the backdrop to anger or jealousy that happens when someone has had something taken away from them of which creates envy and negative feelings toward that person. The body language of those with resentment habitually involves some form of distancing from the stimulus which has caused the emotion. Resentment body language includes crossing the arms, stiffening of the body, grimacing, pouting, avoidance, looking away and various anger signals.

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Resonance: An aspect of voice cause by vibrations in the vocal chambers such as the mouth or pharynx. An authoritative voice resonates from within the chest whereas thin and tight vocal cords produce resonance through the head creating a higher resonance. Low resonances are deep, mellow and earthy, whereas high resonance appears nasal and at times annoying.

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Restraint, restrained, restraining or restricted behaviour: Nonverbal language and movement that is more limited than a person’s baseline. It often indicates a fear response due to anxiety and sometimes predicts lying.

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Rictus: A term stemming from the Latin word meaning “open mouth.” A fixed grimace resulting from extreme shock or nervousness.

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Risorius: Muscles located at the corners of the lips which stretch the mouth toward the ears in the false smile.

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Ritual gestures: Movements that are created between two or more people to build a connection. They can include blowing kisses from mother to infant, silly dance moves, or secrete handshakes. These can extend into adulthood through sports such as end-zone celebrations and other elaborate signals. These gestures are aimed at building relationships and connectivity since they are formulated between close knit people in an exclusive setting.

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Rocking: A rhythmic motion of the torso from side to side or from front to back. Usually rocking signifies a negative thought and based on its intensity and persistence spells to what degree it is felt. High intensity rocking is found in the mentally ill, and low grade rocking can be found in infants who are bored. Rocking also indicates nervousness and can be found in people preparing for sporting events, or to take stage. In this case, rocking is a substitute for pacing.

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Rogatory posture: When the arms are completely outstretched with palms up we call it the “rogatory” posture, or prayer-like. It is a posture used to signify a desire to be believed and trusted however it also tells of a person who lacks conviction.

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Rolled up sleeves (on men): Most powerful when done in a shirt and tie, this gesture symbolizes a desire to get down to business in a less formal manner. Barack Obama can be seen doing this when speaking on change and action. Women usually perceive this body language as masculine and sexy since it puts the forearms on display.

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Room encompassing glance: Occurs when a women first casts her eyes around the room for 5 to 10 seconds. If she spots someone she is interested in, she will take a second look. This second glance is directed toward a specific man. It will be short, and she will rotate her head 25 to 40 degrees to the side then look away (usually downward) within about 3 seconds. Women usually continue this behavior until they meet their target’s eyes. At this point, the target and the woman will hold a mutual gaze lasting about 3 seconds with eye contact broken most often by the women.

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Rotation of the pelvis: While sitting or standing, a woman may subtly roll her pelvis to draw attention to her sexuality.

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Roving eyes: Eyes that wander all over the room making a person seem disinterested and superior.

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Round table seating arrangements or team style seating: A relaxed informal way to sit that promotes discussion among people and creates egalitarian relationships.

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Rituals: Habitual gestures that repeat within a culture including ceremony, idiosyncrasies or social norms.

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Rituals of nervousness: Person specific patterns that outline tension in a person. They can include stroking the arm of a chair, playing with a pen, playing with the hair, or adjusting clothing.

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Rubbing the eye: Usually signifying doubt or disbelief although sometimes indicating fatigue or to alleviate an itch.

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Rubbing the forehead: An evaluative body language gesture but also one that signals an internal struggle where slight to severe discomfort is being experienced.

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Rubbing the hands gestures: A universal signal indicating that someone is prepared to receive something and is figuratively like washing or cleaning them. In an evolutionary sense it is mean to keep the gift which is about to be received clean. We often see those closing important contracts or sales rubbing their hands.

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Rule of four: States that to get an accurate reading of people’s body language you need to find at least four congruent signals at the same time.

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Rule of mixed signals (the): This nonverbal rule says that when there is a mismatch between someone’s body language and their words, rely more heavily on the body language when trying to accurately read a person.

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Rule of negative body language (the): This nonverbal rule says that when a person mixes positive and negative body language rely more on the negative cues than the positive cues. The rule is designed to account for the fact that a person is habitually hiding negativity so as to appear more in control and less abrasive in the eyes of others.

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If you are only picking up on what is being said, you are missing more than half of the message.

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Non Verbal Body Language Dictionary ::O::

by Christopher Philip • March 26, 2010 • 0 Comments

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Oblique eyebrows of grief: In this facial expression the eyebrows are pulled upward more so than the otter ends.

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Observation: Observation in body language reading implies that one actively watches the entire disposition of a person from their head to their toes including all their verbal and paraverbal cues. There is a big disparity between just seeing something and actively evaluating what is being seen and this is what separates an average body language reader, from an expert.

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Oddball handshake: A handshake that often includes bumps, slaps, flicks and clicks. Meant to display a relaxed casual atmosphere and has its place to forming intimate friendships and bonds.

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Offensive gestures: Culturally specific gestures that produce negative feelings in others such as the middle finger in the West and the okay signal in Europe.

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Offered (the): The hands are palm up as if giving a gift. This is a beggar’s plea where agreement is desperately sought from the audience.

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Office artifacts or office props: Office artifacts include any objects that take up space in the place of work. They can be used to display status such as the use of trophies, plaques, certificates or interests such as model cars, sports memorabilia or pictures hung on walls such a nature or fishing adventures. Lawyers are usually portrayed in front of a large library of books which is a nonverbal signal of the mountain of knowledge that “backs them.”

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“OK” gesture: Done by placing the thumb against the index finger forming an opening with the remaining fingers flared out. It is considered more thought provoking and honest when compared to finger pointing because it place emphasis onto the speech rather than the listeners. In Belgium and France however, it means that something is worthless, in Tunisia, Sicily and Southern Italy is an insult, and in Japan that they wish their change returned in coins.

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Ok personality: People that are psychologically comfortable with who they are. They usually have upright posture, with shoulders firm and square, head raised and their body is balanced.

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Olfactory processing: A secondary way of processing information like visual and auditory except the primary means involves the sense of smell. It falls out of the normal realm with which people process information they receive but is occasionally referred to as a vestige. People will use terms such as the following when they refer to their olfaction: This deal stinks. Something smells wrong here. Did you get a whiff of that? This is fresh.

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Once over (the): A sexual or competitive eye pattern that follows the body over its entire form from the toes to the top of the head stopping at the buttocks, breasts and face, typically performed by men. Women are rarely caught looking men over due to their superior peripheral vision. Men have hunter eyes and focus intently on smaller areas. When it signals competitiveness it is usually done by women onto other women looking for a “cat fight.”

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Open body language or openness: Any and all body language that shows that a person is ready to communicate and accept ideas from others. It happens when no part of the body covers the midway-point of the bisected body. The arms and legs are not crossed and the palms are up. Even clothing might be relaxed such as shirt collars being unbuttoned, the pants might hang loose and certain articles like jackets might be removed. Other signals of openness includes increased proximity, prolonged eye contact, warm and relaxed smile, intimate greetings such as hugs and cheek kissing.

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Opposite body language: A pick-up technique where men play hard-to-get by displaying teasing nonverbal cues or even outright disinterest. The object of opposite body language is to appear “chase worthy” in the eyes of women by appearing to be superior to them and avoid appearing “needy.”

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Oral displacement activities: An unconscious gesture aimed at self soothing by using parts of the body such as fingers or hair, or inanimate objects like pens by mouthing them. Scientists have speculated that it is a developmental throwback when we would suckle as infants. Oral displacement can include biting finger nails, sucking pencils, mouthing the stems of the glasses or passing hair through the mouth. Smokers can also be said to have oral displacement fixation where they habitually place objects in their mouth to sooth.

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Orbicularis oculi muscles: One of two muscles that produce smiling. These muscles serve to pull the eyes back to produce the honest smile through what is called “smiling eyes”. Smiling eyes, also called “crow’s feet”, where a classic wrinkling appears in the corner of the eyes is an indication of true happiness.

Oscar Pfungst: Psychologist who uncovered that the skills under which Hans the horse was able to perform simple math had nothing to do with his intelligence, but rather his ability to read body language. He noticed that there were differences in breathing, posture and facial expressions as Hans tapped out his answer. As Hans neared to correct answer, the handlers would increase the tension they held in their body language which would tip off Hans. Once the final tap had been made, the tension suddenly disappeared from the person and so Hans took this cue to mean it was time to stop tapping.

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Orienting reflex or orienting response (a): The phenomenon whereby people turn and move toward stimuli or people they are attracted to, or agree with, rather than away from them such as those we fear or disagree with. (b) The instinctive survival instinct whereby a person orients toward movement. As it applies to nonverbal communication, the orientation reflex controls distractions in business, to maintaining the attention of children with toys, and even to the freeze response where people stop moving in order to put themselves under the radar.

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Ownership gestures: Body language that indicates that a person is in control of something. Ownership gestures are usually performed on objects, but can also be done to people. Propping the feet up on a desk or car bumper or wrapping an arm around a lover or child, are ways to show who they belong to.

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Oxytocin: A natural chemical released by the body due to touching that helps create bonding between people especially in women. In men, sex is the primary releaser of oxytocin which surges up to fives times that of normal just before reaching orgasm. Oxytocin serves to eliminate internal tensions, reduce anxiety, creates feelings of contentment, calmness and trust, and provides reassurance. The hormone is partially responsible for pacifying behaviours that include self touching.

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If you are only picking up on what is being said, you are missing more than half of the message.

For more information on Body Language be sure to check out: BodyLanguageProject.com and the Ebook – The Body Language Guide to Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.

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Non Verbal Body Language Dictionary ::N::

by Christopher Philip • March 25, 2010 • 0 Comments

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Nail biting: Nonverbal signal where the finger nails are chewed. It signals apprehension, anxiety, discomfort and a lack of self-confidence.

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Namaste: A greeting gesture common in India and Nepal. It is done by pressing the hands together palm in palm with fingers pointed upward in front of the chest. A slight bow of the head is sometimes added.

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Nasal wing dilation or nose flaring: Technical term for flared nostrils indicating that a person is entering a fight or flight response and is preparing for action by increasing oxygen uptake.

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Natural smilers: These are people that have a genuine symmetrical smile where both corners of the lips turn upwards equally. Natural smilers will have more even smiles as both sides of their brain respond to pleasure. Smiles that are not genuine are more pronounced on the left side of the face since they are consciously being controlled.

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Neck exposures: Exposures of the neck are linked to visceral responses linked to submissiveness and are displayed during courtship by women and by children.

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Neck rubbing or neck touching: The neck hold, scratch or rub is a response to negative feelings and is a restraint posture as in “holding one’s self back” as one might do to a wily cat or dog by grabbing them by the scruff of the neck only in this case, it is done to one’s self.

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Negative body language: Negative body language is any nonverbal cue meant to portray discomfort such as fear, aggression, timidity or shyness. When compared to positive body language, negative body language tends to be more honest since we routinely hide our shortcomings and are instructed to do so as children.

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Neocortex or mammalian brain: “Neo” from the root “new” is meant to describe the mammalian brain which is more complex and used for higher order thinking and planning. The neocortex is divided into four lobes, the frontal lobe which handles reasoning, speech, movement, and emotions, the parietal lobe is related to orientation, sensory information, recognition, and perception, the occipital lobe which handles vision and the temporal lobe which handles sounds and smells. These parts of the brain are active in deception and also creating false or misleading body language gestures. It is also referred to as the “lying brain.”

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Neoteny: All children are born with a small nose, round chubby cheeks, soft skin, big eyes and a big round face. We call these features neotenous as they remind us of characteristics found near birth. Neotenous features evoke protective feelings in others, even if carried by adults.

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Nervous body language or nervousness: Includes cues that results from discomfort. They include increased eye blink rate, stuttering, dilated pupils, fidgeting, appearing unfriendly or tense, facial fidgeting, shaking, postural shifts or unrelaxed/reserved postures, twitches, shrugs, head movements, playing with objects, sneering, scowling, frowning, smiling, coughing, biting the lower lip, pressing the lips together, increases in chattiness or becoming quiet, wrinkling of the nose, increase in perspiration, blushing or turning pale, curling up in a ball, shifting weight from side to side, rocking in a chair, uncrossing and recrossing the arms or legs, tapping the fingers and increased swallowing.

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Nervous energy: Extra energy that courses through the body due to various stress hormones producing telltale nonverbal behaviours. A person who is anxious will tend to fidget more often, bounce their legs up and down, pace back and forth, play with their face, scratch their arms or even shake uncontrollably. When people have nervous energy, they use movement to burn it off or displace it.

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Nervous hands: Hands that shake, quiver, or fidget indicate stress through a surge of adrenaline. Sometimes nervous hands are disguised through clasping or tucking them into pockets.

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Nervous feet or anxious feet: The polar opposite to happy feet. Nervous feet are more jarring with heel bumps, kicks, and grinding. Angry feet can be even more aggressive and stomp.

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Nervous smile: A fleeting smile that quickly shows and disappears, the eyes are tensed and darting and the lips may quiver in fear. Other times the smile is long-lasting, more than ordinary eluding to strong discomfort and withholding of information.

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Nonelective physical characteristics: One of two types of outer physical traits that a person might have from which a person might be judged (the other being elective). A nonelective trait includes a person’s height, to some degree their weight, body proportions, their complexion, facial features, physical handicaps, the colour of their hair, their age and sex, their race, and so forth. These are important cues to the nonverbalist, but not nearly as much as elective characteristics since they are not chosen. Nonelective traits influence how people are perceived by others and can therefore predict in a general sense how they have been treated by others to produce their core character, but it does not predict their underlying emotions and personality.

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Nonthreatening body language: Nonverbal communication that indicates that a person is not looking for a confrontation and one who is friendly. These include open palm displays, erect, yet relaxed body postures, relaxed gaze, smiling, comfortable proximity, among others.

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Nonverbal awareness: The relative consciousness of silent messages in ones immediate surroundings and their inherent power.

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Nonverbal communication or NVC: Behaviour including gestures, postures, eye patterns, touch, facial expression, fashion, use of space and territory and paraverbal cues that are either directly or are indirectly used to convey meaning from one person to another.

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Nonverbal empathy: Like emotional empathy which is the capability to share in another’s feelings, nonverbal empathy is the capability to share in another’s emotions by connecting to their unspoken movements. It is related to rapport building, but of which no link between two people needs to established, just pure understanding. Mother’s who focus on their preverbal children to understand their desires and wishes by monitoring eye contact, eye direction, pointing, bouncing, use of touch and various other signals will have nonverbal empathy with their children.

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Nonverbal hot spots: An area of the body where active nonverbals are being emitted which provide useful clues to a nonverbalist.

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Nonverbal intelligence: The relative knowledge of the postures and gestures and their meaning coupled with the ability to apply them in a skillful way to bring success to all facets of life including personal and work.

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Non-verbalist (the): A person who is deeply fascinated with watching the silent language occurring all around them. The non-verbalist will watch people in all functions, at nightclubs, at the park, in malls, on television, or at the office. They will consume material and scientific research to learn and build on their resource base so they can master reading, what is to ordinary people, hidden thoughts and emotions as well as to build on and improve their relationships with others.

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Nonverbal leakage: Body language signals which are emitted from a person without their conscious awareness, or at times despite their conscious awareness, which provides useful, yet otherwise hidden information to others.

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Nonverbal physical mannerisms: Ways the body can be held to convey various meanings. For example, standing over someone as they work displays aggression, whereas placing chairs at forty-five degree angles, crossing the legs toward your partner, and avoid putting the hands together shows assertiveness and control. Other mannerisms like drumming the fingers and tapping the feet show nervousness.

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Nonverbal radar: The decision to be watchful of the nonverbal communication occurring all around a person. A person might have their radar turned on to study other people or they might relax it, such as with friends and family.

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Nonverbal vetting: A process of careful observation and evaluation of a person through nonverbal channels to assess their honesty, character, motives, and usefulness.

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Nose crinkle: Happens when the muscles between the eyes just above the nose contract forcing the skin around the nose to wrinkle. It signifies dislike and disgust and can happen in fractions of a second making it very reliable.

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Nose touch: Touching the nose with the hand is a discomfort gesture linked to anxiety and so is a pacifying gesture. Other times it provides clues that a person is lying.

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Nose turning: A signal of dislike or disbelief where the nose momentary twitches to the side. It is as if a person is moving their nose away from a disagreeable smell.

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Nose up gesture: A confidence display where the chin comes up and is opposite to the head down submissive posture.

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Not OK people: People that are uncomfortable with who they are. They have shoulders hunched and carry a negative facial emotions. You may naturally feel wary when around them without reason.

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NLP: Abbreviation for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. NLP is a system developed to help induce behavioural changes and improve communication between colleagues as well as to re-train thinking in business. It was developed in the 1970s where two researches in California, Richard Bandler and John Grinder noted that the predominant research into human behaviour focused on analysis rather then retraining thinking patterns. NLP is driven by defining positive outcomes, understanding how other’s perceive particular circumstances and in identifying the roots by which thoughts affect images and sound or feelings.

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If you are only picking up on what is being said, you are missing more than half of the message.

For more information on BodyLanguage be sure to check out: BodyLanguageProject.com and the Ebook – The Body Language Guide to Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.

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Non Verbal Body Language Dictionary ::I::

by Christopher Philip • March 24, 2010 • 0 Comments

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Idiosyncratic body language: Individual nonverbal cues that are person specific that are built into their character which are repeated as specific stimuli or emotions resurface. They provide the body language reader with reliable cues to underlying meaning in a particular person, but not necessarily any other.

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Illustrators: Gestures that we use while speaking that are directly linked to words. We use these gestures in cooperation with the verbal language to help emphases meaning. Examples of this is the motion of throwing whilst speaking of tossing a ball or using a punching motion to emphasize what happened during a fight, or by describing something, as in, “It was this wide”, then spreading the hands apart to show just how wide it was.

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Impatience: Nonverbal signals that indicate a desire to move to a task that includes fidgeting movements such as drumming the fingers, rocking from side to side, bouncing a leg or foot, slapping the thigh with the hand. These gestures are substitutes to the actual task a person wishes to perform.

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Impression management: The desire, motivation and knowledge to control, either consciously or subconsciously how one is perceived by others through the conveyance of information. It includes acting strong, submissive or muted when required, as exhibited through nonverbal means.

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Inbau, Fred E.: Born 1909, deceased 1998 Fred Inbau was a Professor of Law. In 1945 he joined the faculty of Northwestern University School of Law and later headed the Criminal Law department. As his career developed he became more and more fascinated with police interrogation and worked closely with police officers in their training. He wrote a very popular and influential book by the title “Criminal Interrogation and Confessions” as well as “Reid nine steps” which details various techniques useful in interrogating suspects.

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Inclusion and exclusion technique: Standing or sitting positions that either include or exclude others from conversations based on orientation. It is usually meant to describe a three person affair that have formed a triangle, but inclusion and exclusion can happen with just two people also based on orientation alone. When a third person arrives, the technique to exclude involves an orientation where the original two remain facing each other or, if not facing head-on will close the angle between them even further (from a ninety degree angle to zero, or head-on). This shows that the third person is not accepted. Usually only the head will turn toward the person who is not included. Therefore to exclude someone, the technique says that shoulders or torsos face away from the excluded and toward the included.

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Incomplete arm crossing or incomplete crossed arms: Where one arm crossed over the body to clasp the other arm or elbow. This posture represents a desire to create safety as one would have experienced when a parent held the arm.

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Incomplete gestures: Gestures such as half shrugs or partial smiles. These indicate that a person lacks true commitment to what is being said.

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Incongruent: A state or cluster of cues which are not consistent and when they come together formulate a mixed or confusing message. This state often happens in those who are trying to hide their true feelings. An example includes open postures with palms up, which is honest, but then return their hands to their pockets as if they are hiding something. At times, incongruent body language is legitimate including simply being unsure of a position. Incongruent body language is perceived in a negative light by others who are aware of it.

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Indecision or indecisive body language: Found in people caught between two or more options. Nonverbal cues of indecision include shifting back and forth in a chair, looking back and forth between objects, tilting the head from one side to the other, opening and closing the hands and opening and closing the mouth without saying anything.

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Independent and opposite position: A seating arrangement where two people face head-to-head across the table, but not directly – rather they are adjacent. We see this when people sit in busy places with other strangers or wish to work by themselves.

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Indicators of disinterest (IOD): Nonverbal cues or signals put out by men and women that show they aren’t interested in an interaction. They can occur in a dating context, business context, or any social context. Turning torsos away, crossing arms, avoiding eye contact, looking away, drumming the fingers in boredom, or picking imaginary lint are all body language cues showing a lack of interest.

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Indicators of sexual disinterest (IOsD): Nonverbal cues or signals put out by men and women that show they aren’t interested in a sexual relationship or interaction.

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Indicators of sexual interest (IOsI): Nonverbal cues or signals put out by men and women that show they are interested in a sexual relationship or interaction.

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Inebriation body language or drug use or alcohol use: Signals imparted by people who have been exposed acutely or chronically to various types of drugs. These include slurred speech, rapid speech, exaggerated behaviours such as loud talking, becoming to close or talking too quietly, red eyes, squinting eyes, glazed eyes, bags under the eyes, mood swings, loss of inhibition, shaking, red nose, odor, inconsistent behaviour, poor hygiene and a withdrawal from normal routines.

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Influential body language: Using body language to change opinions, create sales, build relationships that previously didn’t exist, display various strong attributes and reinforce messages while speaking as well as other constructive uses. This differs from manipulative body language since it does not induce someone into decisions that are damaging.

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Informal meeting environments: Locations where people come together to talk about business or to casually chat as friends. This type of setting includes round tables, sofas, coffee shops or park benches. They lack stuffiness and are therefore informal. These types of environments invite friendship, trust and openness and can serve to build rapport quickly.

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Inner self: That which influences of all nonverbal communication to produce the character that is seen by others. It is that part of the self that consistently and routinely controls body language patterns of which is nearly impossible to consciously control. The inner self is the aspect one is required to change in order to change nonverbal patterns to portray traits that are more desirable.

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Intensity: A measure of the amount of emphasis placed in a nonverbal message. It is a term that describes the amplitude to which, for example, the arms and legs reach and the strength of a smile or frown. It is an indication to the dept of the emotion that is felt and its accuracy to what is really felt.

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Intention movements, intention postures or intention cues: A position that indicates what someone wishes to do. Pointing toes toward or away, leaning or looking away and hands on legs in sprinter position are all intention movements since they tell where one wishes to go. Intention cues can also outline a gesture that a person wishes to do, but is otherwise holding themselves back from doing. For example, when children play-fight, they may gap their mouth in a play face signaling intention biting and at other times even follow through when brought to full anger. As adults shaking a fist or vigorously pointing a finger at someone is an intention to strike or spear a person.

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Interlacing fingers or interlocking fingers: Happens by locking the fingers together and rubbing them one inside the other as a means of pacifying. It indicates high stress and low confidence.

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Interlocking feet or interlocking legs: Where the legs are crossed at the ankles while sitting or standing. Usually indicates a hidden thought or emotion, but can also signify high comfort or a desire to stick around especially when standing. When sitting, it can be done by wrapping the legs around a chair showing anxiety, concern or discomfort.

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Internal radar: A filter that when triggered accepts or rejects people. For example men have an internal radar that accepts women’s hip to waist ratio to be seventy percent whereas women’s radar on the same characteristic is set to ninety percent. Women also have internal radars for height, income and intelligence whereas men have internal radar for large breasts, long legs and blonde hair. Internal radar is not just set for sexual cues, it spans all facets of life.

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Interpersonal distance: Refers to the ways in which people treat the space, or lack thereof between them and how they repel or are attracted to one another.

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Interpersonal communication: Refers to the ways in which people convey information to one another including through verbal and nonverbal channels.

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Interpersonal relationships: Refers to the social associations, connections or affiliations between two or more people.

Introverts: People that become easily affected from outside stimuli and seek refuge in quieter places. These types of people tend to freeze up more in public, but are loose when in their own element.

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Interrogators: Experts such as the FBI, CIA, military personnel, police and psychologists who specialize in interviewing suspects in order to reveal criminality versus innocence or to extract information by reading hidden messages in body language. They often focus on lying and lie detection and have been shown through research to be more effective at uncovering liars from truth tellers when compared to regular people. The goal of interrogators is to avoid false confessions by comparing the relaxed baseline of an individual against stimuli that creates stress to uncover leads for further investigation.

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Interruptions in speech: When a person cuts off another person mid-sentence. Sometimes this is due to good reason such as adding to the conversation or excitement, and other times is due to a desire to impatience, boredom, desire to control the topic or be persuasive or attention seeking.

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Intimate gaze or triangular gaze pattern: The eyes will travel continuously in a pattern from eye to eye then down to the mouth. They will also wander briefly to other parts of the face although the vast majority of time is spent looking at the eyes and mouth. When the eyes make forays to the rest of the body, they check out the clothing, overall build, jewelry and rings. The intimate gaze lasts around 4-5 seconds.

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Intimate space zone: A distance of 18 inches or closer which is reserved for only very close friends or romantic partners.

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Intimate touching: Touching aimed at creating or maintaining sexual connections including kissing, holding hands, rubbing the shoulders, touching intimate areas including the breasts and groin, etc.

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Intuition: Intuition includes the processing of information that we’ve obtained by observing people. When someone says they have a “bad” feeling about someone or they feel “uneasy” or the salesman was “slimy” they are using their intuition. Sometimes though, our intuition becomes clouded by preconceived notions and new information is tainted or distorted.

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Invisible lint picker (the): Shows a critical listener and indicates that what was being said is disliked, contempt and disapproval through eye contact avoidance and distraction.

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Inward lip roll: A similar meaning to compressed lips which is due to frustration and withholding of information or feelings. It is akin to bottling in the pressure and keeping everything inside. Sometimes the lip roll is due to intense concentration, but usually it is due to indecisiveness, nervousness and deception.

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If you are only picking up on what is being said, you are missing more than half of the message.

For more information on BodyLanguage be sure to check out: BodyLanguageProject.com and the Ebook – The Body Language Guide to Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.

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Non Verbal Body Language Dictionary ::G::

by Christopher Philip • March 23, 2010 • 0 Comments

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Gait or bipedal gait: Refers to the style or mechanics of locomotion in humans and animals. Scientists have identified thirty six different types of gait in the human species. They include the hobble, the mince, the glide, the bounce, the stride, the wiggle, the dart, the prance and the run.

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Gazing adoringly: An eye pattern that stems from infatuation and deep love and affection that lacks any negative emotion whatsoever. The eyes and eyelids relax and move freely from each eye to the mouth and lips, with brief glances to the rest of the face including hair and ears. Gazing adoringly happens during courtship between couples and between mothers and their newborn infants as they bond to each other.

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Gaze avoidance or averting eyes: When a person purposely prevents or avoids eye contact, either to show disinterest, to scorn, or to show a difference of opinion or even submission.

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Gazing: A gaze is an inviting display of warmth where positive emotions are attached to the face making it appear softer. Opposite to the gaze is the stare which acts like daggers shooting invisible arrows into the face of another. Eye gaze reveals cues to interest, attention, affiliation, intimacy, approval, dominance, aggression and openness to personal involvement.

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Gaze omission: Defined as a failure to look at someone without intending to (rather than avoidance).

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Gravity defying body language: Body language that is a measures a person’s exuberance and demonstrates that they feel happy. It includes raising the arms, having a bounce in the step, swinging hands while walking, having an upright posture and so forth. When sports players score a goal, they celebrate by expending energy that seems to be in no short supply by flinging their arms in the air.

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Genital framing: A posture where the hands and fingers draw attention to the genitals. Men can genital frame by placing their thumbs in belt loops and aiming the fingers toward their penis and women can place their hands on their hips aiming the fingers in the same direction.

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Genuine emotions: These are facial expressions that usually only last a fleeting moment, only to quickly disappear. Facial expressions that last too long and are poorly timed with events are usually insincere.

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Gesticulation: The use of the hands to add colour and meaning to language. Gesticulation includes movements of the hands such as hitting motions, cutting, begging and so forth.

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Gestures or gesture: A form of nonverbal communication or body language that produces specific messages and meaning. They include movements of the hands, face, and body, but do not include other facets of body language such as proxemics, facial expressions and postures, which are ways in which the body holds itself to display meaning. Gestures include emblems, that are used to replace specific words in speech, and illustrators which are used to colour language, in addition to sign language which is an entire set of body movements used to replace verbal speech altogether.

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Glide (the): An elegant gait type characterized by short but deliberate movements of the feet.

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Greeting gestures: These includes motions designed to greet others and are different across cultures. They include handshaking, bowing, waving, full salaam, namaste, cheek kissing, hugging, hand kissing and so forth.

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Greetings: These include gestures aimed at welcoming someone after a separation or done upon meeting someone for the first time. They include waves, handshakes, hugs, salutes, bows, curtseys, and so forth and are culturally specific.

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Grief muscle: The French call the area between the brows, the “grief muscle” and is activated to pull the eyebrows together to express both pain, as well as when you wish to inflict it. This muscle is sometimes flashed across the face as a microexpression.

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Grief or sorrow: A general lose of positive energy which tends to override other emotions. Signs of grief include tears, listlessness, inability to complete common tasks, isolation, apathy, downcast eyes, relaxed facial muscles, slumped body, motionless or slow movement.

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Grin or smirk: This smile indicates smugness and arrogance. It is a tight lipped smile with the addition of a degree self satisfaction for good measure. The smirk has accompanying dominant body language such as head back, shoulders back, open postures along with dialogue riddle with exuberant pride.

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Grinder, John, T.: Graduate of the University of San Francisco in the early 1960’s and bests known for his work in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) with Richard Bandler.

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Grooming and preening: These have two unrelated message in body language. One meaning says that a person is keeping their bodies clean and presentable to show the world that they are in good mental health since it is one of the first characteristics that becomes lax when disease sets in. Preening can also be used to show detachment from conversations through eye contact avoidance and attention displacement which is the case when eyes avoid contact with another in order to remove imaginary lint.

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Group dynamics: The study of how people interact in clusters drawing on fields such as psychology, sociology and communication studies including nonverbal body language. When nonverbalist examine people in groups, a complex array of body language occurs of which is not present in dyadic situations. When looking at groups it is possible to determine hierarchy, social status, friendliness or lack thereof, attraction and repulsion, amongst many others.

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Guiding body language: Using a hand to lightly push on another person’s back to move them in a desirable position, pulling someone in when shaking hands, using a finger to beckon someone closer, or using alluring eye contact are all ways to influence people to move in ways desirable.

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Guillaume Duchenne: French researcher Guillaume Duchenne was first to research smiles using electrodiagnostics and electrical stimulation to distinguish between real and fake smiles. The honest smile has also been named after him; the “Duchenne smile.”

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Guilty knowledge: Nonverbal body language that shows discomfort such as hand wringing, foot and hand withdrawal, pacifying behaviours, leaning away, stiff postures and movements, unsmiling lips, furtive looking about, restlessness and tension due to the stress associated with lying.

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Gustatory processing: A secondary way of processing information like visual and auditory except the primary means involves the sense of taste. It falls out of the normal realm with which people process information they receive but is occasionally referred to as a vestige. People will use terms such as the following when they refer to their gustatory sense: This just rolls off the tongue. This deal is sweet like candy. Don’t be so bitter. What a juicy story.

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If you are only picking up on what is being said, you are missing more than half of the message.

For more information on BodyLanguage be sure to check out: BodyLanguageProject.com and the Ebook – The Body Language Guide to Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.

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