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Non Verbal Body Language Dictionary ::T::

by Christopher Philip • March 28, 2010 • 0 Comments

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Tanned skin or tan: When the skin is darkened due to exposure to UV rays either through tanning beds or outside exposure. Tanned skin reveals a person’s hobbies or work environment. When it is due to tanning can indicate vanity especially when overdone. Tanned skin can also reveal a recent sunny vacation, or that a person works outdoors habitually and will usually have callused hands.

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Tap (the): A nonverbal cue given off by available women whereby the index finger taps the forearm. It is usually done when the arms are crossed. The tap is like an abbreviated finger motion as in, “come here.”

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Tapping: Tapping of the feet, fingers, or with objects, it indicates boredom and a desire to exit a situation. Other times it indicates anxiety where tapping is a form of energy release.

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Tapping a pencil on the teeth: Indicates that thought is taking place.

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Target: That person to which body language is aimed at, or, of which is being read.

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Taste or tastefulness: Nonverbal signals that are culturally specific and also somewhat subjective indicating that a person prefers clothing and material objects that are in style or fashionable. Having good taste reveals good judgment about social norms, a sensitivity about the opinions of others, sophistication and prosperity. The opposite signals are conveyed with poor taste.

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Teacup handshake: The palm is cupped such that it makes no contact with the other palm. It indicates shyness or insecurity.

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Teeth grinding or teeth clenching: Occurs when the jaw is tightly clenched and the teeth rub back and forth or simply by clenching the jaw tightly. It indicates inward-directed anxiety, frustration or anger. Other times clenching is due to intense physical strain or in anticipation of pain.

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Teeth licking or running tongue over teeth or tongue to teeth: When the tongue is run back and forth over the teeth or lips. This is a signal of stress as saliva production increases so does the need to move it around and swallow it. The tongue on teeth also provides a soothing tactile stimuli aimed at reducing anxiety.

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Tells or Tell (a): A term borrowed from poker, a ‘tell’ is a nonverbal cue that gives a person away and uncovers their hidden thoughts and emotions. It is an informal word used to replace “cue”, or “nonverbal body language.”

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Territory: The area around a person which they feel is their own and guard as such. It includes our houses or apartments, our yards, automobiles, offices as well as the space that surrounds our immediate bodies.

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Territorial displays: Includes nonverbal cues that make the body appear larger. Splaying the arms, legs and feet and puffing out the chest are a few examples of territorial displays.

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Territoriality: A key part of humanity that describes how people use space to communicate ownership.

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Testing closeness: A technique that is used to verify a desire for greater intimacy. Rather then using the entire body which can cause a negative reaction, testing says that legs, arms, or objects should be used to make brief forays into someone else’s personal space to read their reaction.

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Thigh-thigh cross or thigh thigh leg cross: A more extreme version of the knee knee cross where the leg is drawn up further onto the leg. It is extreme in so much as the legs are more tightly crossed. It is rarely performed by men due to their anatomy but found in women due to their wider hips.

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Thin slice assessment: The ability of humans to make decisions in astonishingly small amounts of time with only small amounts of information often involving nonverbal information – whether accurate or not. This phenomenon is why it takes so little time to assess people coding them into characters and leaving them there relatively immutable unless rigorously challenged. This is what makes using good nonverbals important in everyday life.

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Threat displays: Nonverbal signals designed to intimidate and predict aggression. These include chest protrusion in men, making the body appear larger and more outstretched, fist pounding, fist clenching, raising the voice, erratic movements, and so forth. These gestures form the prelude to physical violence.

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Thumb displays or thumbing: We see this thumb displays normally by royalty and also by lawyers who are trying to seem noble and important. The gesture happens by placing all but the thumbs in the front pockets of a vest, or suite jacket, or by knuckling the vest and leaving the thumbs out. Thumbs-out is a representation of ego, dominance, assertiveness and sometimes even aggressiveness. Denotes superiority.

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Thumb hiding: Placing the thumb of the same hand inside the clasped fingers, placing only the thumbs in a pants pocket with the remainder out are two ways thumbs can be hidden. This indicates low status and low confidence.

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Thumb in hand gesture: Done by placing the thumb against the index finger and where the remaining fingers form a ball. The hand then motions as if pointing, and in a rhythmic motion, emphasize points with conviction. The thumb in hand gestures is the “politicians gesture” since it is frequently used by various Presidents and world leaders and is a less offensive way to accomplish what would otherwise be left to finger pointing.

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Thumbs up: Where the thumb is raised upward with the remaining fingers clenched together. It indicates that all is well in North America and Europe, a sexual insult in parts of Africa, Australia, Southern Europe and the Middle East, the number 1 in Germany, and the number 5 in Japan.

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Tibial torsion or pigeon toes: Having the toes pointed inwards, often called pigeon toes or anatomically “tibial torsion” is a submissive body posture. Children, and women who are smitten, will point their toes inwards to show their meekness signally their willingness to be lead by more dominant individuals. Pigeon toes makes the body appear smaller forcing it into a less threatening profile.

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Tickling: A play gesture done to make another person laugh and squirm.

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Tie adjustment: A stereotypical male grooming cue indicating sexual interest.

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Tight lipped smile with low intensity: In this smile the lips are stretched across the face toward the ears using the risorius muscle and no teeth are showing. The low intensity smile has very little upward curl in the corner of the mouth and indicates a hidden attitude or thought, uncertainty, hesitation or lack of confidence.

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Tight lipped smile with high intensity: A variation where the lips rise even further with some teeth showing and of which the lips are slightly separated, the corners of the mouth are upturned, gaze is steady and warm and the posture is relaxed. We find this smile appearing when meeting new acquaintances and it is not a full honest smile, but does show openness to others.

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Timber: A characteristic of the voice that describes its quality or sound. Timber is influenced by age and sex coupled with the physical dimensions of the oral and nasal cavity. Children have higher voice qualities, as do women, especially compared to men, since their vocal tracts are about twenty centimeters shorter, and in relation, so too are their vocal cavities. Timber is a separate quality from pitch as even signing highly such as sopranos and falsettistas sound different across sexes and age. This is what makes timber an important nonverbal cue as it ties directly into hidden meanings perpetuated by the creator of the voice. We expect masculine men to have a different timber than less masculine men and especially different than women and children.

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Toes pointed upward (while standing): Happens when a person shifts their weight to the back foot while raising the toe of the other foot. It is a gravity defying form of body language indicating positive feelings.

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Tongue displays: Nonverbal cues that provide cues to a person’s inner thoughts. Lip licking, tongue protrusion and the tongue out the corner of the mouth all have specific meanings.

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Tongue protrusion or tongue out: An evolutionary throwaway gesture thought to have arisen as food rejection mechanism by infants sometimes indicating genuine focus on a task or deceit, agitation and unhappiness.

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Tongue jutting or tongue jut: When the tongue is pushed through compressed lips. It is used to signal a cheeky attitude when done amongst friends, but has a more sinister connotation in competitive situations since it indicates that a person has gotten away with something. In this case, the tongue usually does not touch the lips.

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Torso shield: Placing the arms or other objects over the chest so as to protect it from perceived threat. It indicates a difference of opinion. Shields can be hidden and subtle such as playing with a cufflink or holding a drink across the body, or be more obvious like holding a full arm cross or hiding behind a bar top or the back of a chair.

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Torso splay: A dominance posture where the torso is seen laying back in a comfort position, the chest is puffed out, and the chest is opened or bared challenging an attack. It indicates high comfort and that a person feels they are in charge.

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Touch reduction: When people are at odds with someone else, or are lying, they tend to reduce the amount of touching they do to other people.

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Traffic cop (the): The hands are placed palm up in a stop motion. The speaker wishes the audience to settle or calm so they can continue.

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Transactional analysis theory: Abbreviated TA, and developed by Eric Berne in the late 1950’s it is an integrated theory of how people function. It uses three ego states to predict and explain behaviour which are the parent, adult and child. It states that the most constructive position to hold is the adult rather than the parent or child. The “adult” is able to rationally deal with emotions and difficulties without throwing tantrums like a “child” and without trying to control like a “parent.” Unproductive or counterproductive interactions were said to be due to ego state problems rooting in our development. The focus was on modifying behaviour to achieve desirable results rather then simply observing them.

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Truth bias: A literature review shows that an average sixty-seven percent accuracy is found when detecting the truth, whereas forty-four percent is found while detecting deception. People’s accuracy at detecting truths is usually higher than their accuracy at detecting lies! This is what is called the truth bias. Some possible explanations for the truth bias stem from the fact that in everyday encounters we usually deal with honest people. While lying is pervasive, it doesn’t happen nearly as often as does lying. Thus, we expect people to be telling the truth and are therefore better at detecting it. Another possible reason for our inherent truth bias is because it would be detrimental to act suspiciously while speaking with others just in case they were telling the truth.

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Turtling or turtle (the) or turtle effect: This posture happens as the head appears to be swallowed by the shoulders. It is an evolutionary defensive strategy to protect the head and happens when people are uncomfortable, have low confidence about themselves or a topic, have insecurities, feel weak or powerless, ashamed, or are carrying any other negative emotion.

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Twiddling the thumbs: A subconscious gesture indicating boredom where the interlocked fingers support the task of thumbs circling one another.

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Twitching: Sometimes referred as a nervous twitch, a sudden short burst of movement or flinch can be due to a variety of reasons. Twitching can be due to sudden or sustained stress, but more often than not is due to a random firing of neurons, or underlying medial disease and therefore has no meaning at all. When it is due to stress, it is likely person specific meaning they have a tendency to twitch when under stress.

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Two-inch-drop: A female hip to waist ratio of which the hips are two inches larger than the breast. It is a “hippy” condition and found much more in European countries such as Britain. In Germany and Switzerland it is 2.4 inches and Sweden and France it is 3.2 inches.

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Two-inch-rise: Opposite to the two-inch-rise, the breast is two inches larger than the hips. This produces a “pin up model” condition. In the usual condition it is the hips that are actually narrower and not the breast that is larger producing an illusion.

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Non Verbal Body Language Dictionary ::N::

by Christopher Philip • March 25, 2010 • 0 Comments

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Nail biting: Nonverbal signal where the finger nails are chewed. It signals apprehension, anxiety, discomfort and a lack of self-confidence.

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Namaste: A greeting gesture common in India and Nepal. It is done by pressing the hands together palm in palm with fingers pointed upward in front of the chest. A slight bow of the head is sometimes added.

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Nasal wing dilation or nose flaring: Technical term for flared nostrils indicating that a person is entering a fight or flight response and is preparing for action by increasing oxygen uptake.

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Natural smilers: These are people that have a genuine symmetrical smile where both corners of the lips turn upwards equally. Natural smilers will have more even smiles as both sides of their brain respond to pleasure. Smiles that are not genuine are more pronounced on the left side of the face since they are consciously being controlled.

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Neck exposures: Exposures of the neck are linked to visceral responses linked to submissiveness and are displayed during courtship by women and by children.

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Neck rubbing or neck touching: The neck hold, scratch or rub is a response to negative feelings and is a restraint posture as in “holding one’s self back” as one might do to a wily cat or dog by grabbing them by the scruff of the neck only in this case, it is done to one’s self.

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Negative body language: Negative body language is any nonverbal cue meant to portray discomfort such as fear, aggression, timidity or shyness. When compared to positive body language, negative body language tends to be more honest since we routinely hide our shortcomings and are instructed to do so as children.

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Neocortex or mammalian brain: “Neo” from the root “new” is meant to describe the mammalian brain which is more complex and used for higher order thinking and planning. The neocortex is divided into four lobes, the frontal lobe which handles reasoning, speech, movement, and emotions, the parietal lobe is related to orientation, sensory information, recognition, and perception, the occipital lobe which handles vision and the temporal lobe which handles sounds and smells. These parts of the brain are active in deception and also creating false or misleading body language gestures. It is also referred to as the “lying brain.”

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Neoteny: All children are born with a small nose, round chubby cheeks, soft skin, big eyes and a big round face. We call these features neotenous as they remind us of characteristics found near birth. Neotenous features evoke protective feelings in others, even if carried by adults.

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Nervous body language or nervousness: Includes cues that results from discomfort. They include increased eye blink rate, stuttering, dilated pupils, fidgeting, appearing unfriendly or tense, facial fidgeting, shaking, postural shifts or unrelaxed/reserved postures, twitches, shrugs, head movements, playing with objects, sneering, scowling, frowning, smiling, coughing, biting the lower lip, pressing the lips together, increases in chattiness or becoming quiet, wrinkling of the nose, increase in perspiration, blushing or turning pale, curling up in a ball, shifting weight from side to side, rocking in a chair, uncrossing and recrossing the arms or legs, tapping the fingers and increased swallowing.

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Nervous energy: Extra energy that courses through the body due to various stress hormones producing telltale nonverbal behaviours. A person who is anxious will tend to fidget more often, bounce their legs up and down, pace back and forth, play with their face, scratch their arms or even shake uncontrollably. When people have nervous energy, they use movement to burn it off or displace it.

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Nervous hands: Hands that shake, quiver, or fidget indicate stress through a surge of adrenaline. Sometimes nervous hands are disguised through clasping or tucking them into pockets.

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Nervous feet or anxious feet: The polar opposite to happy feet. Nervous feet are more jarring with heel bumps, kicks, and grinding. Angry feet can be even more aggressive and stomp.

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Nervous smile: A fleeting smile that quickly shows and disappears, the eyes are tensed and darting and the lips may quiver in fear. Other times the smile is long-lasting, more than ordinary eluding to strong discomfort and withholding of information.

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Nonelective physical characteristics: One of two types of outer physical traits that a person might have from which a person might be judged (the other being elective). A nonelective trait includes a person’s height, to some degree their weight, body proportions, their complexion, facial features, physical handicaps, the colour of their hair, their age and sex, their race, and so forth. These are important cues to the nonverbalist, but not nearly as much as elective characteristics since they are not chosen. Nonelective traits influence how people are perceived by others and can therefore predict in a general sense how they have been treated by others to produce their core character, but it does not predict their underlying emotions and personality.

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Nonthreatening body language: Nonverbal communication that indicates that a person is not looking for a confrontation and one who is friendly. These include open palm displays, erect, yet relaxed body postures, relaxed gaze, smiling, comfortable proximity, among others.

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Nonverbal awareness: The relative consciousness of silent messages in ones immediate surroundings and their inherent power.

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Nonverbal communication or NVC: Behaviour including gestures, postures, eye patterns, touch, facial expression, fashion, use of space and territory and paraverbal cues that are either directly or are indirectly used to convey meaning from one person to another.

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Nonverbal empathy: Like emotional empathy which is the capability to share in another’s feelings, nonverbal empathy is the capability to share in another’s emotions by connecting to their unspoken movements. It is related to rapport building, but of which no link between two people needs to established, just pure understanding. Mother’s who focus on their preverbal children to understand their desires and wishes by monitoring eye contact, eye direction, pointing, bouncing, use of touch and various other signals will have nonverbal empathy with their children.

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Nonverbal hot spots: An area of the body where active nonverbals are being emitted which provide useful clues to a nonverbalist.

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Nonverbal intelligence: The relative knowledge of the postures and gestures and their meaning coupled with the ability to apply them in a skillful way to bring success to all facets of life including personal and work.

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Non-verbalist (the): A person who is deeply fascinated with watching the silent language occurring all around them. The non-verbalist will watch people in all functions, at nightclubs, at the park, in malls, on television, or at the office. They will consume material and scientific research to learn and build on their resource base so they can master reading, what is to ordinary people, hidden thoughts and emotions as well as to build on and improve their relationships with others.

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Nonverbal leakage: Body language signals which are emitted from a person without their conscious awareness, or at times despite their conscious awareness, which provides useful, yet otherwise hidden information to others.

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Nonverbal physical mannerisms: Ways the body can be held to convey various meanings. For example, standing over someone as they work displays aggression, whereas placing chairs at forty-five degree angles, crossing the legs toward your partner, and avoid putting the hands together shows assertiveness and control. Other mannerisms like drumming the fingers and tapping the feet show nervousness.

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Nonverbal radar: The decision to be watchful of the nonverbal communication occurring all around a person. A person might have their radar turned on to study other people or they might relax it, such as with friends and family.

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Nonverbal vetting: A process of careful observation and evaluation of a person through nonverbal channels to assess their honesty, character, motives, and usefulness.

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Nose crinkle: Happens when the muscles between the eyes just above the nose contract forcing the skin around the nose to wrinkle. It signifies dislike and disgust and can happen in fractions of a second making it very reliable.

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Nose touch: Touching the nose with the hand is a discomfort gesture linked to anxiety and so is a pacifying gesture. Other times it provides clues that a person is lying.

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Nose turning: A signal of dislike or disbelief where the nose momentary twitches to the side. It is as if a person is moving their nose away from a disagreeable smell.

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Nose up gesture: A confidence display where the chin comes up and is opposite to the head down submissive posture.

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Not OK people: People that are uncomfortable with who they are. They have shoulders hunched and carry a negative facial emotions. You may naturally feel wary when around them without reason.

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NLP: Abbreviation for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. NLP is a system developed to help induce behavioural changes and improve communication between colleagues as well as to re-train thinking in business. It was developed in the 1970s where two researches in California, Richard Bandler and John Grinder noted that the predominant research into human behaviour focused on analysis rather then retraining thinking patterns. NLP is driven by defining positive outcomes, understanding how other’s perceive particular circumstances and in identifying the roots by which thoughts affect images and sound or feelings.

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If you are only picking up on what is being said, you are missing more than half of the message.

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Non Verbal Body Language Dictionary ::H::

by Christopher Philip • March 24, 2010 • 0 Comments

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Hailing: A raise of the hand, but with no characteristic waving motion. It indicates that a person has noticed another.

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Hair length language: I term applied to the meaning of the relative length of the hair. Men with short hair are often conservative whereas those with long hair are usually carefree, artistic, or radical. Women with short hair are seen as artistic and business minded. Long hair in women is associated with youth and sexiness, but aging women with extremely long hair can harbour insecurities.

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Hair ruffling: A playful bonding gesture where the hand is run over the hair of another so as to mess it up. A father might ruffle the hair of his son.

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Hair play: Can indicate basic grooming, a sexual cue, or that pacifying is taking place depending on context.

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Hall, Edward Twitchell: Born 1914, Hall was an anthropologist. He is considered one of the founding fathers of intercultural communication. He coined the terms “high and low context culture and “proxemics” in his book “The Hidden Dimension.” Other books by Hall include “The Silent Language” and “Beyond Culture.”

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Halo effect: When people receive positive attributes such as being labeled intelligent or nice simply because they are physically attractive.

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Halting speech: A speech trait where the rate is broken and disjointed. Halting speech indicates insecurity, nervousness, confusion, lying, evasiveness, or an honest attempt to be precise.

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Hammer fist: Made by balling up the fist and repeatedly and rhythmically batoning it against the palm of the other hand or the table. It is an aggressive method of emphasizing a point of view.

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Hand gestures: Special orientations of the hands used to convey specific meaning.

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Hand holding: A nonverbal gesture signifying affection and closeness. In Islamic cultures men can be seen walking hand-in-hand and in the West courting men and women will hold hands showing intimacy.

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Hand on the chin or hands supporting the chin: Indicates evaluation or that negative thoughts are being held, that boredom has set in, or that a person is tired.

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Hand on top handshake technique (the): A handshake technique which reverses the power plays palm down dominant presentation. It is done by grasping with the right hand in the palm up orientation then putting the left hand over top of their hand and turning it vertical.

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Hand rubbing gesture: Rubbing the hands signifies the expectation of receiving something. It has roots in washing the hands to accept goods with hands free of dirt.

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Handshaking or handshake: A handshake is a type of gesture that is used in greeting where two hands meet palm to palm and a pumping action takes place. There are three main orientations that can occur during a handshakes. They are palm down (superiority), palm up (submissive) and palm even (equality). Palm down handshakes emphasizes that a person wishes to control and dominant us, the palm up means someone feels subordinate and an even palm seeks an equal relationship.

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Hand steepling: A posture where the hands are propped by the fingers of each hand to form a bridge – like a church steeple. In this posture fingers are not interlocked and the palms do not touch. The steepler is someone that is confident, sometime overconfident, genuine, authoritative, and particularly evaluative of others around him. Confidence, in this case, is held in the power and control they possess and also in knowing things that other people do not, so steepling says “I have access to hidden information (and life experience) and this is the source of my power and control over you.”

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Hand to face or hand to mouth: A gestural pattern that indicates timidity, shyness or lack of self confidence. Hands that cover the mouth while speaking or wrap around the lips or play with the side of the face or cheek are examples of nonverbal language that spells poor self confidence. Hand-to-face and hand-to-mouth are also sometimes attributed to lying body language although this is only sometimes the case.

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Hand wringing: When the hands are clasp one inside the other and tightly clamped and twisted on each other. It signifies high anxiety, stress or low confidence and is a pacifying behaviour. It can be done so aggressively that the fingers or knuckles turn white.

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Hands in pockets: A comfort position, but also one that reveals insecurity and a lack of confidence and in more extreme cases even secretiveness as if a person has something to hide.

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Hands on hips or hands akimbo or fists on haunches or the pot with two handles: Having the hands on the hips has roots in evolution as it acts like the display of a peacock. It makes the body take up more space and hence appear larger which can be attractive to other men who seek leadership from them or to women seeking a healthy mate.

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Happiness: Characterized by an upward movement of the corners of the lips and the formation of wrinkles in the corner of the eyes.

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Haptics or touch or bodily contact: The study of touching and how it is used in communication. Handshakes, holding hands, kissing, back slapping, pushing, stroking, hugging, high fives, brushing up against someone or pats all deliver meaning and are included in haptics.

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Happy feet: Happy feet are those that bounce up and down with joy or seem to have a spring in their step. This is gravity defying body language and is an honest indication of joy.

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Hard swallow or swallowing hard: Stress indicator due to low saliva production as the fear response of a person is activated. It is usually involuntary. Signifies anxiety and embarrassment.

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Hat raise: A greeting gesture done by removing the hat quickly and replacing it.

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Hat tip: A greeting gesture done by briefly touching or tilting the brim of the hat and lowering the head.

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Head back: Head back indicates confidence sometimes overconfidence and an authoritarian outlook.

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Head bobble: A side to side motion across an arc. It means different things to different cultures. For example, in East Slavic it means disapproval and in India it means “okay.”

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Head drop: A male pick-up cues that is done by first establishing eye contact, then lowering the head followed by quickly and deliberately snapping it backward as if to say “Hey you, come over here.” It is a replacement signal to the finger beckoning and is more subtle.

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Head lowered or head down or head lowering or bowing the head: The head down shows a judgment or negative internal emotion, submission (defeat).

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Head on: Indicates passive listening.

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Head nods: A gesture done by moving the head up and down along the sagittal plane. Nodding has a widespread meaning used to convey acceptance or agreement but in other cultures it means disagreement.

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Head shake or head negation: Occurs as a side to side motion and is normally perceived as maybe, but in reality this is a negative thought indicator. It is done when a person can’t get past a thought.

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Head tilt or head cock: This is a submissive gesture and normally performed by women. The head tilt happens by tilting the head at forty-five degrees and delivering eye contact in a come hither type look. It makes women appear more childlike and evokes protective feelings in men.

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Height: Used as a way of establishing superior-subordinate relationships. These can be real differences as with short and tall people or circumstantial as in happens by modifying ones environment or posture.

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Hesitant movements: Gestures that are filled with fits and starts of which lack direction and certainty. They are not smooth, nor steady. Hesitant movements indicate a lack of clear thought, timidity, fear, nervousness, shyness, lack of commitment and poor self esteem.

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Hess, Edward, H.: A pioneer in the study of pupil dilation who found that viewing attractive stimuli produced larger pupil sizes.

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Hidden mouth or concealed mouth or mouth conceal: Done by placing the hand over the mouth, in part, or whole and “talking through it.” It shows timidity, low self esteem and appears dishonest.

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Hiding in plain sight: A nonverbal technique that usually involves a visceral response from the fright or flight system. This fear causes a person to freeze, either in whole, in extreme cases, or more minutely such as arm or leg freezes for the purpose of going unnoticed. Breath rate can be reduced, eyes may cease looking about the room, and the body may take up a less expansive profile. When children wish to avoid being called on in school, they will “hide in plain sight.”

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Highbrow: When the eyebrows are stiffly arched. It signifies arrogance.

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High confidence body language: Nonverbal cues that are relaxed and show contentment lacking in stress and anxiety. They include hand steepling, splayed legs, erect chest and shoulders, strong, yet relaxed eye contact and so forth.

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High confidence hand displays: Signals that include steepling, palm down displays, and thumbs up (interlaced fingers), out or visible (through jacket pockets). These show high comfort and high self esteem.

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High-five or high ten: A congratulatory gesture done by slapping the hand (or both hands) of another person either above the head or at waist height.

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High/low context culture: In a high context culture the rules for conduct do not have to be specifically outlined or verbalized because everyone already knows them. The cultural demographics are set and the countries demographics doesn’t vary widely from person to person. High and low context affects rules governing aspects of body language such as touching norms. High context cultures have a long standing history and practically everyone in the country understands the rules governing touching for example.

Americans come from a low context culture and those from the middle-east come from high context culture.

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Hip tilt: Hip tilt is pervasive in fashion and advertising because it is one feature that women have that men lack. Women can be seen slouching to one side forcing their hips out to emphasize their curves, or walk in an exaggerated way, bouncing their hips up and down as if on a pendulum – the cat-walk. Because the hips move about a center pivot, the eye is drawn front and center to the woman’s genitals which act as a beacon.

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Hip rolling or hip jut or hip sway:HipHHHfdsfd While walking the hips move in an exaggerated fashion from side to side so as to draw moving attention to the genital region.

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Hip-to-waist-ratio or hip waist ratio or waist to hip ratio: A comparison of measurements that signify attractive qualities in men and women. Studies universally show that men universally prefer a hip-to-waist ratio of about seventy percent (7:10) in women, whereas women prefer men to have a hip-to-waist ratio to be about ninety percent (9:10). This ratio is independent of overall body size or body mass.

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Hip embrace: Happens when young lovers walk with arms around the hips of the other forcing their bodies snugly side-by-side. It is a display of intimacy.

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Hippocampus: A region of the brain that primarily functions in memory, especially long term memory, but it also plays a part in producing pleasure, rage, distaste, annoyance and uncontrolled loud laughter. The hippocampus is responsible for various nonverbal signals due to the root emotions it creates.

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Hobble (the): A type of gait where the legs can not perform a full stride due to injury.

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Honest feet: This is a term used to describe the fact that the feet are a more honest indicator of true feelings and hence body language than the rest of the body. Millions of years ago, we gave up quadrupedalism to walk upright leaving our feet to the dirt and while the hands were focused on higher order tasks through the neocortex, the limbic mind controlled the feet relegated to locomotion and fear response – the fight or flight response. When people are fearful, the feet respond the fastest by being pulled inward, when we are aggressive they kick or stomp and so forth.

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Honest body language or honesty: Body language that is characteristics of people who are telling the truth. Honest people are generally more relaxed and lack discomfort, they will hold open postures, will meet and hold gaze, will use touch and gesticulation in conversation and will not opposite proximity.

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Hostile body language or hostility or anger: Gestures that are designed to intimidate through replacing a person with an action or object with which the action is intended. For examples, hostility can be displayed by pulling or pinching at one’s own ears, cheeks, hair, or face. Figuratively these are actions that the hostile persons wish’s to inflict against their agitator. The gestures are displacement signals meaning they allow for the release of hostile thoughts through peaceful means that avoid (for the time being) direct physical conflict. We might see foot jabs against the leg of a chair, against the floor or other object, a fist might be repetitively pound against the table with emphasis, or the classic fist to palm punch with some verbally threatening language such as “I’m going to smash your face in.” Other cues indicating hostility include redness in the face, arms legs or ankles crossed, hands on the hips, short or rapid breath, frequent repetition of aggressive behaviours, pointing with the fingers, rapid or loud speech, rapid body movements, tension, locked jaw, tightly closed lips, frozen expression or scowling, stiff or rigid posture, shaking, fist clenching, uncontrolled arm movements and false laughter.

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Honest brain (the) or reptilian brain (the): The reptilian brain produces visceral bodily responses such as heart rate, blood pressure, circulation, respiration, digestion, and reproduction. The reptilian brain is the brain stem. It produces nonverbal body language that is deemed more truthful than that generated by the neocortex which is capable of producing conscious movements. When a person defense their territory and competes for dominance it is due to the reptilian brain.

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Hug-ender cue or tap out (the): Is a pat done toward the end of a hug when one party wishes to terminate.

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Hugger (the): A gesture used while speaking to an audience where the arms are made

into a circle in front of the body with the palms facing inward toward the speaker. The speaker wishes for the audience to accept his way of thinking or is trying to wrap his mind around his own hypothesis.

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Human lie detector (the): A person who is able to read and decode nonverbal cues in other people so as to uncover when lying is being perpetrated.

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Humility (nonverbal): Body language that indicates that a person desires others to be included regardless of status or intellect. Humility implies that a person is secure with themselves and lack competitiveness. They are also forgiving, understanding and compassionate. Signals given off by those with humility include good listening, self-deprecating humour, quiet demeanor, giving up a chair for someone else, holding proper eye contact and using open body postures.

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Humour: The word humour comes from the Greek humoral referring to medicine (humours) that was thought to control human health and emotion whereas a sense of humour is the ability to experience humour. Humour is a social bonding tool. Humour also has many variations such as slapstick thought to be a rudimentary form, and satire which was thought to be a more educated version.

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Hybrid expression: A term Charles Darwin first referred to in his book “The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals” first published in 1872. It describes a facial expression that combines two opposing meanings such as laughing to conceal a state other than happiness such as anger, shame or shyness. According to Darwin expressions such as smiles either real or pretend are often “blended with the expression proper to contempt, and this may pass into angry contempt or scorn.” Hybrid expressions tell readers to be careful to watch for cues in context rather than by themselves and to look for congruency between what is said and what is seen, as well as body language that happens in unison to uncover true meaning.

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Hygiene: One of the most significant bodily traits. Bad hygiene includes unkept greasy hair, dirty hands or face, dirty fingernails, dirty or stained teeth, bad breath, body odor and dirty smelly clothing. Bad hygiene can say that a person lacks intelligence, organization, is lazy, careless, rebellious, lacking in courtesy or a desire to please, and lacks a desire to be socially accepted. People with poor hygiene sometimes lack the knowledge of its affect on others, are insensitive to others, are mentally ill or have medical problems, or are very poor.

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Hyperhydrosis: A medical condition characterized by an abnormal increase of perspiration independent of any requirement for regulating body temperature. As it relates to nonverbal language, it can be confused with negative connotations when no such connotations occur.

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Hyperventilating: A fear driven emotional limbic response whereby the lungs draw inordinate amount of air in rapid succession without breaks. Hyperventilation is a sign of deep trauma and stress.

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Hypothalamus: Coupled with the pituitary gland, the hypothalamus controls the adrenal glands. These in turn release stress hormones when stimulated by fearful situations. These hormones flood the body helping to release energy needed to fight or flee. The hypothalamus also releases other hormones in response to stress contributing to anger and depression. The hypothalamus is responsible for various nonverbal signals due to the root emotions it creates.

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If you are only picking up on what is being said, you are missing more than half of the message.

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Non Verbal Body Language Dictionary ::E::

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Ear blushing: Reddening of the ears due to emotional stress.

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Ear grab or ear rub or ear rubbing: The ear grab refers to a subconscious desire to “hear no evil” and is done by reaching up and pulling the ear in response to hearing or saying discomforting things.

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Echoing: Is like mirroring where similar body postures are replicated, but of which happen sometime later. It is a technique that makes the rapport building process more subtle. In echoing, postures and gestures are not concurrent with what is going on with others, but instead happen after some time has elapsed. To be effective, echoing happens within thirty seconds to a minute of separation, but can even happen with several minutes of separation, where only subtle rapport is felt.

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Ejector seat position: A sitting position where the hands are placed on the thighs near the knees and the body leans forward onto them indicating a readiness to leave. One foot might also be extended forward in the direction one wishes to leave.

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Eibl-Eeibesfeldt, Irenaus: Born in 1928, he is the founder of human ethology and has contributed many studies regarding human behaviour.

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Ekman, Paul: Ekman was born in 1934 and is noted for his extensive work on facial expressions and emotions. His key finding is that facial expressions are universal and not culturally determined denoting a biological or inherent origins rather then learned or cultural. The key emotions include anger, disgust, fear, joy, sadness and surprise.

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Elective physical characteristics: One of two types of outer physical traits that a person might have from which a person might be judged (the other being nonelective). An elective trait includes the type of fashion chosen, tattoos, piercing, hygiene, hair style, use of make-up, accessories, and so forth. These are important cues to the nonverbal reader since they are chosen by the wearer and so can predict underlying emotions, characteristics and personality about a person. These elective characteristics tell about who a person would rather be.

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Embarrassment (nonverbal): Nonverbal signals that indicate discomfort due to being out of place or being put on the spot with unwanted attention. It is frequently confused with anger, defensiveness, or nervousness because people often wish not to be perceived as embarrassed. It includes signals such as blushing and trembling, in addition to submissive postures such as lowering the head, turning the shoulders inward or away, avoiding eye contact, nervous laughter, shaking the head, and a freeze response which includes reduced movement overall, less gesturing and a loss for words or fleeing so as to escape the negative stimuli.

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Emblems: Quotable gestures that have a direct verbal translation which are culturally specific which can be used as replacement for words. The middle finger is an obvious gesture to Westerners and so too is the peace signal (or V-sign) which can also mean victory or and insult in other cultures.

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Emotional body language: Any body language that serves to display feelings such as fear, anger, sadness, timidity or shyness, disgust, and happiness.

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Emotional commitment: In body language it refers to the lack of objectivity a nonverbalist might experience due to a premature prediction. Because people have fallible traits, they may have a deep desire to maintain an inaccurate assessment instead of modifying their predictions as new information is presented.

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Emotional downtime: Research shows that every three seconds, on average, people ‘slip away’ to be with their own thoughts and internalize what is happening around them. This ‘downtime’ allows our brains the time it needs to process, the information that is happening all around us. People that are taking downtime will exhibit characteristic body language such as appearing blank in the face, pauses in breathing, subtle chewing of the lips, or very brief eye freezes or glazing over.

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Emotional intelligence: Abbreviated EQ is a relative measure of a person’s awareness of emotions in others as well as their relative ability to deal with them in a positive way. A part of EQ is the understanding of emotional communication coupled with the ability to emphatically convey emotions to others.

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Emotional short-circuiting: A primarily limbic response that overrides logical thought sending a person into fits of anger, panic, fear and so forth, preventing them from doing constructive work and instead sending them into various unproductive behaviour eluded to through nonverbal channels. Only a well tuned individual such as those in the armed forces, police, paramedics, firefighters and other high stress professions can overcome emotional short-circuiting from occurring.

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Emotional suppression: Occurs when a person tries to suppress or hide emotions from others especially through their nonverbal channels.

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Emotions: Most researchers agree that the following six emotions tend to be recognized by all cultures: happiness (enjoyment), distress (sadness), anger, disgust, surprise and fear.

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Emphasis: Gestures that usually indicate honesty though greater than normal commitment. They are “over-the-top” and have a higher amplitude that ordinary gestures and might even be repeated several times. Emphasizing gestures also makes them more memorable and therefore more useful when trying to deliver important information.

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Emphatic gestures: Gestures that reinforce spoken words such as finger jabbing, batoning or chopping hands, hand clapping, foot stomping and so forth.

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Encroaching: Body language that takes advantage of proxemics to violate a person’s personal space and territory. It involves standing too close, standing over someone by exploiting height differences, touching when un-welcomed, and even raising voices or the volume of music to violate the privacy and comfort of others.

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Endorphins: A natural painkilling hormone that is released to sooth the body as a result of touching from others or the self and high physical stress or strain. Self soothing or stroking such as rubbing the hands, the arms or the hair are nonverbal cues indicating a need for endorphins to sooth and that stress is present.

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Energy Displacement: When someone talks about energy displacement and body language they are talking about movements that spawn relief. For example, someone that is nervous or excited will rub their legs, but they can also rub their hands together or stroke an object vigorously. The action gives them something to do and also allows them to release some of their pent-up energy.

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Enthusiasm (nonverbal): Refers to the relative amplitude that is carried through on the nonverbal message. We say that a person is enthusiastic when they gesture with exaggerated motions, commit to them throughout their message, use different variations if messages are misinterpreted, and sometimes even repeat them. Using arms in speech such as pointing, hitting the fist against the palm, jumping up and down, raising the voice and flashing the eyes, are just a few examples of showing enthusiasm. Enthusiasm has been positively tied to honesty in nonverbal messages.

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Environmental cues or artifacts: These are objects that form part of a person’s habitat (house, office, etc.) which provide clues to their character and disposition. They include a person’s automobile, their house and how it is decorated, their accolades in their office, photographs they keep on the wall and so forth.

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Erythrophobia: A term applied to a medical condition that creates blushing due to the fear of blushing. Blushing is a reflex controlled unconsciously by our sympathetic nervous system, but in people with this condition the mere fear of blushing causes them to blush, and so they blush much more frequently with minimal stimulus. In body language, it is a misleading nonverbal message since the conditions by which they occur are somewhat detached from a regular person. In other words, the condition produces blushing that does not indicate severe stress or discomfort.

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Escape movements: Any body language that indicates a desire to leave a situation. The most common type of cue includes pointing the toes toward the doorway. A second cue is casting the eyes in any direction other then conversation at hand to seek ways of exiting.

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Ethology: From the Greek work “ethos” meaning “character” is the scientific study of animal behaviour, however in recent times it has been extended to human behaviour and social organizations. Because of its origins, it is a subtopic of zoology. The study of ethology draws from many other disciplines including ecology, evolution, neurology, physiology, and when applied to humans, psychology, sociology or biopsychology. Ethology follows animal emotions, animal cultures and sexual behaviour. A large part of the framework by which behaviour is typed is based on evolution by natural selection. When ethology deals with humans it strongly relates to inherited or natural body language.

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European leg cross (the): A sitting position whereby the leg is crossed neatly over the other. It is the most common seating position in European, Asian and British cultures.

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Evaluative body language or critical evaluation: Gestured that indicate that a person hasn’t yet, but is working toward a decision. They include chin stroking or hand resting on cheek or chin, removing or putting on glasses, neck rubbing, stoking the side of the nose, looking upward and so forth.

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Evasive actions: Nonverbal body language such as distancing, turning away, eye avoidance and turning the feet toward an exit that indicate a desire to escape a stimuli.

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Evil eyes: Unblinking staring eyes fill with contempt.

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Exhaling or “blowing off steam”: A rapid expulsion of air indicating tension or frustration.

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Expansive movements: A dominance driven response to appear larger and more authoritative. It includes leg and arm spreading, puffing out the chest, placing the hands on the hips, and so forth. Men are usually those who use expansive movements whereas women typically use diminutive movements which are the polar opposite.

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Extended eye blink or extended blink or extended eye closure: The extended eye blink is performed by arrogant individuals as they temporarily shut off the outside world as if it were irrelevant. They are sending a message to others that what they are doing and feeling isn’t worth their energy and thought and that they either bore them, or they are superior to you. The extended blink is a form of eye blocking which protects a person from distasteful images and ideas.

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Extravagance: A person who habitually goes over the top with the objects and events in their life. This type of person is usually more concerned about what other people think and have a desire to be accepted. Someone can be said to be extravagant if they own expensive toys especially if they are rarely used.

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Extravagant dresser or extravagant fashion: A type of style which is more focused on style rather than on comfort. This type of dresser is image conscious, suffers from poor self-esteem and has a desire to be accepted by others. Extravagance includes expensive watches, colour coordinated accessories, manicured nails and expensive haircuts.

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Extroverts: People that become energized by stimulus and seek out noisy and busy environments. Extroverts have a high tolerance for stimulus and require a lot to keep themselves amused. Amusement parks, busy downtown areas, any place with lots of movement and loud noises make the extrovert feel at ease.

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Eye accessing cues: A technique stemming from NLP that assesses thoughts based on eye movements. For example, eyes up and left indicates a visual imagined thought which can provide clues to lying, whereas up and right indicates visual remembered.

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Eye aversion: Eye aversion is used to prevent other from resorting to an attack response and prevents others from seeing us as a threat. Subordinates commonly avoid eye contact with dominant individual to indicate submission and respect.

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Eyeball assault: When a person becomes overly aggressive with eye contact. Eye assault happens when men appear to undress women, or stare other men down. Women might appear to give “dirty looks.” Assault is a matter of length and type. Lingering stares of unbroken eye contact is the high of eyeball assault. Eyeball assault violates the moral looking time.

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Eye blink rate: Refers to periods of excitement as it relates to an increase in blinking. The more we blink the more we are prepared for action as we keep our eyes moist. Pronounced eye blinking can happen during sexual arousal and attraction or while under pressure. A rapid series of eye blinks can also indicate an inner struggle or distress.

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Eye blocking: A term used to describe eyes that are constricted by squinting, covered with the hands, or shielded in any other way, in response to negative stimuli.

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Eyebrow cock: A mixed eyebrow movement where one eyebrow is raised while the other is lowered. It represents both aggression and fear at the same time due to the division of high and low, and when mixed, indicates suspicion or skepticism.

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Eyebrow flash: The eyebrow flash has been studied for decades most notably by Eibl-Eibesfeldt and has been shown to be a long distance universal social greeting. It is a sort of nonverbal “hello”. The eyebrow flash happens very briefly and lasts only about one-sixth of a second.

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Eyebrow hold: Happens when the eyebrows raise and pause for a second when someone seeks an approval gesture such as a head nod or vocal agreement. It indicates a lack of knowledge or even helplessness. Politicians and children do this often when they seek approval, it says “So, what do you think, have I don’t a good job?”

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Eyebrow(s) knit: The eyebrows are raised simultaneously and drawn inward toward each other producing both horizontal creases in the forehead and vertical creases between the eyebrows. It signifies intense grief and anxiety.

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Eyebrow lowering: Eyebrows that are lowered indicate confrontation, anger and aggression, but if they are dropped low enough and kept low, they indicate deep weakness and insecurity.

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Eyebrows shrug: The eyebrows are raised, held for a moment, then lowered. It signifies mild, yet unpleasant surprise and may be used in speech to emphasize certain important points.

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Eye coding: Nonverbal communication done exclusively through eye contact and eye patterns. Eye coding is the conveyance of meaning and information between two or more people, usually women (and gay men). It is especially applicable in PUA where women will approve or disapprove of the pick-up of others in their group based on looks alone. In other words, eye coding is when women verify the impressions of their friends of the man who has approached. Conveyed meaning include “I think this guy is cute/creepy”, “We should leave”, “I’m okay, you can go” and so forth.

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Eye contact: Refers to two people looking directly into each other’s eyes (versus their toward their face, mouth or body).

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Eye direction: Eye movements are a key component of NLP whereby eye direction outlines thought process. For most right-handed people, eye movement up and to the left is a signal of accessing a visual memory, movement up and right means that a person is trying to construct a visual image. Eyes either right or left, but still level, indicate an auditory process such as remembering sounds and words. Down and left indicate internal dialogue or self talk and down and right indicate a tactile or visceral feeling. When the eyes are straight ahead, unfocused or dilated they signal visual or any sensory information.

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Eye flash: The eye flash lasts on average for only 0.75 seconds and is a momentary widening of the eyelids during a conversation. It includes no involvement of the eyelids. The widening is usually wide enough to reveal the sclera which is the whites of the surrounding the iris. The eyeflash when given by a speaker, emphasizes specific words being spoken and can serve to change the meaning of a given word or phrase. It normally accompanies adjectives rather than any other parts of speech, and women use it more often them men.

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Eye flutter or eye fluttering: An increase in the rate of blinking in response to arousal, nervousness or concern. The eyes flutter in response to an internal struggle.

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Eye-gaze: Happens when the gaze is directed toward the eyes of another but of which that person might not reciprocate (as in mutual gaze).

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Eye gaze behaviour: Eye patterns that show hidden meaning and hidden thoughts.

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Eye glasses body language: Eye glasses carry many stereotypic nonverbal messages, most of which are positive. Researchers have found that subjects rate wearers of glasses are more intelligent, knowledgeable and studious. In fact, they are attributed with an increase in IQ. In contrast, when women wear glasses with provocative attire they conjure images of naughty librarians and so carry multiple meanings. Eye glasses though can also decrease social quotients when the remaining nonverbals don’t measure up producing an image of nerdiness.

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Eye movements: Originated by American psychologist Grinder and Bandler and part of NLP – eye movements, specifically directions, are useful in predicting channels of thought accessed by a person. They can signify recalling sights, smells, tastes, or tactile memories. When people remember things they saw, their eyes will move upwards, if they recall something they heard, they will look to the side, emotions are recalled by looking down or to the right, and when accessing constructed memories, people will look down and to the left.

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Eye rolling or eye shrug: This cue is done by rolling the eyes around in a semi circle from bottom to top, or looking straight up. It says disbelief as in “I can’t believe you just said this, you are a fool”, contempt, sarcasm, and a lack of respect.

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Eye rubbing: Occurs as the hand comes up and rubs the eye with the eyelid closed. This is widespread gesture indicating a negative thought and disbelieve in what is being said. The underlying thought is that a person “can’t believe what they are seeing.”

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Eyes defocused or eyes unfocused: When the eyes are unmoving and stare blankly. Indicates that attention is focused inward rather than outward.

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Eyes flutter or batting eyes: When the eyelids are opened and closed in rapid succession. Used to invoke feelings of protectiveness in others by appearing more childlike.

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Eyes glistening: Eyes that appear moist due to active tear ducts. Indicates arousal that is an order less than that which produces actual tears. It can show passion, love, anguish, distress, or bereavement.

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Eyes multi-blink: A rapid eyelid movement open and closed when a person is on the verge of tears.

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Eyes narrowing or eyes squinting or furrowing: When the eyelids are compressed constricting the eyes. Indicates contempt, distaste and distain.

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Eyes super-blink: An exaggerated closing of the eyelids that is slow in speed but has a high amplitude. It is used to indicate feigned surprise as in “I can’t believe what I’m seeing.”

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Eyes weep or crying: When the eyes produce secretions due to extreme pain or joy.

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Eye widening: Eye widening is a positive nonverbal cue indicating that someone is observing positive stimuli that bring them joy and happiness. The size of the eyes directly indicates how positive someone is about a topic or other stimuli.

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If you are only picking up on what is being said, you are missing more than half of the message.

For more information on BodyLanguage be sure to check out: BodyLanguageProject.com and the Ebook – The Body Language Guide to Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.

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