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Body language can be complicated and sometimes written descriptions just don't cut it. Where a picture replaces a thousands words, imagine the power of a thousand pictures! This page is pretty straight forward, on the left side you will find a video and on the right side you will find corresponding text. As you hit the play button catch up with what's going on in the video by reading the text. The accompanying text will explain what is going on in the video with a bit more detail.
	Body Language Project Trailer Hey, it’s our very own Body Language Project trailer! See if you can catch the cues of sexual interest and disinterest. Listed here, in order, are the body language signals: hair play, placing hair on top of the head, head drop, playfully covering the eyes/childish games, smiling, smile and head cocked to 45 degrees, wrist display and stroking of the wrist, pointing with the feet and extending a foot toward a person of interest, head at 45 degrees, looking up “through” the forehead and hair grooming, stroking an inanimate object, skirt hike, yawning, tapping for boredom, exposing the inner thigh and crossing legs towards a person of interest, increasing proximity, playfully showing disinterest/playing hard to get.
	The Wallflower How often do we catch either ourselves or other men acting like “wallflowers”? That is, generally acting anti-social and eyeing women. It has been shown that women have more acute peripheral vision than men, and just because they aren’t looking directly at a man, doesn’t mean they don’t notice your greasy eyeballs all over them. In all likelihood, women will avoid making eye contact altogether as the net effect could be taken the wrong way. That is, she might think you’ll wrongly assume she is interested which will only invite additional problems for her. Using a gaze instead of a stare is much more effective positive body language. Gazing is very hard for men to accomplish and involves showing appreciation for the person being viewed. Men normally cast their eyes toward women like they are objects. Married men can be the worst for this since they ogle women without any intension of ever approaching or talking with them. My short advice is to avoid checking women out in this way and allow them to show you interest by having them initiate the eye contact. There are more appropriate and positive ways to get female attention, such as being the life of the party, or being seen conversing with other people, rather than being a loner and staring at women like they are a slab of meat.
	Skirt Hike The skirt hike is such a sexy display of sexual interest! What’s even more fascinating is that this signal happens subconsciously! A woman who is available and interested will subconsciously play with her shirt buttons, perhaps unbuttoning and re-buttoning the upper button to reveal more skin, serving to tease the men around her. She might also be flashing her wrists, and if she is wearing a skirt, will be playing with the bottom of it and pulling it up slightly. It’s so potent that if she notices a man who she is not interested in, she will quickly force the skirt back down! We know if body language is directed at us by monitoring eye contact and the direction in which the toes are pointed. Women normally motion body language signals directly at a target, so watching the rest of her body will tell us who she is interested in.
	High Blink Rate High blink rate is related to liking and stimulation. When we blink we add moisture to the eyes with the help of tears, allowing us to see better. When we blink, it is because we are excited and don’t want to miss a thing. Stress can also contribute to high blink rates as too can dry air or a multitude of other sources, so be sure to look at the full picture to ascertain true attraction. On the other hand, you can try to stimulate attraction by artificially increasing your blink rate to try to induce the other person to do the same. Subconsciously, as they increase their blink rate, they may feel a greater attraction. Another eye game includes a double wink, where both eyes are closed for a slightly more exaggerated period of time. It’s much less aggressive than a single wink and holds less sexual connotations. Women will find the double wink more acceptable and less offensive. The double wink, when done properly and to a receptive audience, can help light the fire.
	Mirroring Mirroring is an instant way of building or monitoring the connection people have with one another. Yawning, for example, is something that even complete strangers feel compelled to mimic. Mirroring body language helps us to gauge what level of agreement is present between people. In our evolutionary past, mirroring each other’s gestures served to eliminate aggression between people. We use it today in much the same way. Two strangers won’t initially hold the same gestures or will hold closed body language and postures, but as agreements and opinions are expressed, their bodies will display agreement and common ground. In dating, mirroring plays an even more potent role as couples can groove in almost complete synchrony. We call this the mating dance. Mirroring therefore says, “Look at me; I’m the same as you. If we both agree, we must like each other, and if we agree, we can probably raise children together.” Mirroring also shows how rooted cooperation is in our nature and how we can tolerate cooperation with just about anyone for a short period of time. Mirroring can go as deep as simultaneous blinking and nostril flares, eyebrow flashes, and as we see in the video, drinking in unison.
	The Peek-a-Boo Game “This technique can be used by both men and women. Peek-a-boo is played in much the same way as kids play it, but in a slightly more sophisticated manner. You can do this across a room with another woman by using objects such as menus, drinking glasses, or with people walking by. This game, if done properly, will function to arouse women. It teases them. It is as if the eyes, when finally revealed, are made better by their absence. Two people who are attracted to one another often do this at a distance. You can imagine two people in a crowded bar, each having noticed the other. As they evaluate one another by scanning over them, sooner or later their eyes will meet. Then someone or something will break the visual contact between them. Curiosity will take hold and either the man or the women will shift to reestablish the sight path and their eyes will meet again. This form of flirting is what most people would call love at first sight. It is a connection that is created with no words at all and it sets the stage for courtship. Normally the players of the game will feel a sense of exhilaration especially when they are caught eye-to-eye. It can send a shockwave through the player’s bodies and cause the woman to blush, smile, and perhaps giggle. If you notice that a woman is playing the game with you, then she is probably inviting verbal contact. It can also be played with various body parts. For a woman it can be done by flashing skin through a slit. Arguable this is why slits are particularly seductive. It can also be done by un-buttoning and re-buttoning a shirt or collar. Ultimately, it is a form of teasing and can be very seductive.”
	Missing the Signals So the other day my computer had a bit of a glitch. For the nerds out there (myself included) the computer wouldn’t post or would post inconsistently. Turns out there was a small screw set behind the motherboard. Interesting story, huh? Well, it got me to talking with the computer repair shop owner about body language. He had been to a bar recently and was hanging out with a few buddies. They found it amusing to watch the antics of a man in his early 40s trying to seduce the young ladies! He described play-by-play his stances (the cowboy pose) and his close talking. This fair man was even blessed with the appearance of an alpha male – he just didn’t know how to use it! I showed the computer tech a few images and we had a chuckle as I could point out all the poses he was conducting. He was clearly missing the signals. The following video demonstrated my thoughts to the tech about how clueless some men are in dating and attraction. If you read the signals, you can use your time better and calibrate your body language to the receptivity of those around you.
	Using Male Body Language Playing hard to get can sometimes put you back in the driver’s seat with women. For example, you could display a carefree attitude by slouching lower in a seat, opening up your posture, and taking up more space than necessary to demonstrate dominance. This may excite certain women since you are displaying as a typical alpha male, but if you go overboard, it will turn women off. You can also tease by showing feigned disinterest in a woman by leaning or facing away. Showing your back or talking over a shoulder also raises your status. In effect, if she is interested, she will compete for your attention and try to reopen your body posture. It creates interest in her because she is forced into chasing you instead of having you chase her, which can be a novel experience for an attractive woman. You can also offer up positive body language teasingly and sparingly to women based on earned comments and cues. For example, if a woman says something interesting you could open up and lean in, but instead of continuing with this gesture, lean back and away until she does something to entertain you once again. Therefore, you are using body language as a reward instead of falling into the trap most men do by giving women full on accepting body language even though they don’t completely deserve it. If she says something you like or agree with or flirts with you, then move in a little. If she says something negative then move or turn away from her. Opposite body language is a way to show a girl that you aren’t always interested in what she has to say and avoids all the pitfalls of appearing overly needy and interested. Note: This video was shot during the photo shoot for the E-book, Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language and is quite natural. We cued Mark to use open male body language by leaning back. Without cuing Julie, she took up the natural posture that she demonstrates in the video. That is, she leans forward. Because they are having an open conversation, you can also note a natural object caress as she strokes the stem of her glass with her hand.
	Poor Approach The book explains this well so I’m just going to pull it straight from the text. Yeah, I guess I’m a bit lazy today! It is normally perceived as a threat to approach a woman from her side or, if you are driving an automobile, her blind spot. Thus, avoid sitting or standing directly alongside a woman, especially one you don't know very well. Women feel more comfortable if they are approached from the front because they can better assess the situation and are not taken by surprise. After this initial approach, and if the woman begins to relax, the man can then move to the side to continue the conversation. If, on the other hand, a woman chooses to approach a man, she might do so by approaching initially from the side or from behind, then continuing the conversation directly in front of him. The more she faces a man and matches his torso with her own, the more attraction she is feeling. A man will very normally perceive a woman who approaches directly from the front as a threat but will find this positioning tolerable after an initial approach. It's easy to picture this in an employee-employer relationship. A female boss might move in directly to her male employee to better establish hierarchy.
	Proximity We all, at some point or another, have taken for granted what a strong force proximity plays in our relationships until it is severely extended via distance. Anyone who has had to endure a long distance relationship knows how difficult it is to maintain. With infrequent contact these relationships become difficult and even impossible. It would seem that distance is the primary factor in deciding who we’ll end up dating as it certainly determines who we’ll most often spend our time with. It also plays an important part in who we will meet. In attraction, and as it relates to body language and intimacy, proximity can tell us a lot. Intimate zones start at the 18 inches mark and closer. Women who tolerate this proximity with men are likely interested in either their friendship or something more. More casual distances fall in the range of a few feet, whereas complete strangers will tolerate around 7-10 feet as a norm. Knowing all this, what should we make of the repulsion Dave induces from Scarlett in the following video? What does it tell us about her interest? What does it tell us about his approach? Her facial expressions lead us to believe that she is playing either hard to get or else she is teaching Dave some sort of lesson. Because she lacks eye contact with Dave, it is likely that they are acquaintances (as an unfriendly glare would be more appropriate if a stranger approached), and that perhaps Dave’s actions have set her off. Either way, this proximity makes it obvious that the connection between the two is weak and Dave needs to reestablish his position with her so he can regain her willingness to allow him to enter her intimate space once again.
	Room Encompassing Glance Catching a girl in the act can be very exhilarating! Now, I’m not talking about getting caught in some sexual situation here, so get your mind back in the game! I’m talking about catching a girl demonstrating that she has the hots for you. To the untrained eye, this might be overlooked as neutral or non-existent body language, but in reality the room encompassing glance is very specific and a tell tale sign of interest. During our photo session for the E-book, Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language, we had our female model perform her interpretation of this glance.
	It’s all in the Hair! It’s all in the hair! Women with long hair have a very powerful tool that they can use in seduction. Hair that is soft and supple gives off indications of youth and virility which men naturally find attractive. But the subtleties in which they indicate availability and sexual interest can sometimes be vague. Looking up through bangs can be seductive and so too can a hair toss if done while batting the eyelashes. However, what does it mean if she continuously plays with her hair or passes it into her mouth? What about if she does it while looking away or down? What other cues need to be present in order for the cue to be of use to men? While I don’t want to come off as a complete tease (pun intended), I’m afraid that I’ll have to defer you to my E-book, The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language